Do you know?
My favorite film growing up was anything starring Diana Ross. Most notably was the film "Mahogany", starring Diana Ross, Anthony Perkins, Billy Dee Williams and directed by none other than Motown's Berry Gordy. The theme song for this film was "Do you know where you're going to...do you like the things that life is showing you? "Where are you going to? "Do you know?"
Diana Ross was a fashion designer student living on the South Side Of Chicago with aspirations of becoming a world renowned designer. She met Anthony Perkins on a department store shoot, where she was the assistant. Anthony Perkin's character felt like she was more suited to be a model than some assistant. He told her she should be walking run ways in Milan. He made that happen for her. However, she had unfinished business in Chicago with the love of her life, a man who was too consumed with his own career to take a real interest in his woman's longing to make something of her life and to get herself out of the hood.
As I find myself newly relocated from Orlando, Fl to Maryland, working as a very full-time Lyft driver, with strong desires, aspirations and dreams of working as a full-time artist and entrepreneur, I can't help but hear this song playing in the background of what has become my life. The good news is that I do know where I am going. And I don't always like what life is showing me. However, I understand and take full responsibility for creating that part of life which I don't like.
Nearly every woman AND man who learns that I am new to the DMV area, has the pleasure of hearing my WHY I moved from Los Angeles to Orlando and then recently to Maryland, all in a 13 1/2 month time period. Without going into the gory storyapolus details, my response to their inquiry is, I am having a mid-life crisis. I know! I know! Can you believe I actually say that to people? Well! Believe it, because it's the unabashed truth.
I am in the middle of my life; which experts say that mid life is between the age of 35 and 58. Voila! I am in my mid life. The definition of crisis is a time of difficulty and trouble. A crisis is an occurrence that causes for an important decision to be made. Bingo! That, too, is me.
Where are you going to? Do you know?
A wise person; actually several wise people have a belief that the best way to add value to your life is to be of service to someone else in need; as it's a healthy distraction to your own problems. Not only that, often times, we realize that there are people going through an even tougher time than we are. That is what I am appreciating about being a Lyft driver. I have coined myself as "Your Local LYFT Lady" WHY? Because it sounds cute and cool all wrapped up in one.
Because of this new direction that I've steered myself in, I have the great pleasure of encountering people from all walks of life, ages, ethnicities, sexual preferences, manners, socio-economic backgrounds and educational levels.
As I write this blog, the two people that have been on my mind since I picked them up, are a same sex couple that I met a couple days ago. They entered my vehicle and we instantly made a connection. When I shared with them my WHY I have lived in (3) states in 13 1/ months is due to a a "Mid-Life" Crisis - I felt only understanding, compassion and relatability; minus the judgement from both women. By the end of our 45-minute ride together, we realized we had more commonalities than differences. We learned that we share some similar beliefs. Trump is a bad word in their household. These two women believe educators should be well compensated for helping to mold the minds of young people. They understand it's absolutely inappropriate to touch a black child's hair because you are curious as to what IT feels like. They are from the Midwest; which is the same part of the country I was born and raised in. One of the women complimented my short hair cut; which is actually more of a bald shaved look. She told me she loved seeing African-American women with short hair. They shared with me that they are in the process of adopting two young children, ages nine and thirteen. Based on the name of the children, I knew there were African-American. While these women were NOT middle-aged, they could certainly relate to being in a crisis. Most of us, at some point in our lives, will have the great pleasure of being in a crisis; which is actually a blessing in disguise. It's a time when we get to reinvent ourselves. Being in a mid-life crisis is a time to celebrate our past accomplishments, while forgiving others and ourselves for our mistakes, poor decisions and short comings. Herein lies an opportunity to go inward and tap into our creative side to create the life WE want and on our terms. It's a time to do things different and better.
I am embracing my mid-life crisis. I am also embracing this new chapter in my life, where both myself and God are in absolute control of my destiny. This I know to be true and real for me.
Lastly, for all of the non-black people raising black children with natural hair, C4 is an explosive. I'm just saying. I shared with one of the moms that my head was shaved due to alopecia. She shared with me that her adopted daughter has C4. I thought it was some new fangled hair or scalp condition I never heard of. If your black or African-American child has a 4c hair pattern, that means it is more tightly coiled. In its raw state (no products added and freshly washed) it does not have a defined curl pattern. Her coils have to be defined by either twisting, braiding, or shingling through the strands. Many 4c naturals have shrinkage up to 70% or more. lol. Just wanted to make that distinction as my public service announcement.
I look forward to sharing more of my experiences as a Lyft driver in the DMV; while I reinvent myself and my life.
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